From Fear to Freedom: Embracing Love & Connection with Anxious & Avoidant Attachment Styles
Do you often grapple with indecision, doubts and worries about your relationship or commitment even though things between you seem to be going well?
Do you feel trapped in a cycle of self-sacrifice,, fear of disappointing and struggle to get in touch with your own emotional needs making you question your ability to commit or sustain a fulfilling long term relationship?
Do you aspire to create a loving and authentic partnership where you can feel deeply connected with yourself AND with your SO?
Is this you?
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Everyone tells you how great things look from the outside, but inside it's a completely different story. You struggle with anxiety, worries about your partner, or relationship, and it's preventing you from being fully present in your relationship.
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You worry about disappointing others and as a results struggle to commit to anything permanent when it comes to relationships.
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You're not ready to give up maybe on your partner, your relationship, love or even yourself! Something inside you is telling you that it's time to courageously explore what's going on so you create the fulfilling relationship you want.
Understanding the connection: Insecure Attachment Styles and Relationship Anxiety
Anxiety has the remarkable ability to attach itself to various aspects of our lives, and when it latches onto our romantic relationships, it can become a formidable challenge to manage. This is particularly true for those who grapple with insecure attachment styles (anxious, avoidant or fearful-avoidant), which can give rise to relationship anxiety.
In relationships marked by insecure attachment, anxiety can manifest in several ways:
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Restless nights spent pondering whether a mistake has been made.
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A constant stream of 'what if' questions: What if I don't love my partner enough? What if this isn't meant to be? What if I'm just settling? What if I'm not sufficiently attracted?
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The struggle to fully commit to a loved one, despite a strong emotional connection and compatibility, due to nagging fears.
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A tendency to pull away when a partner gets too close, coupled with a relentless need for reassurance.
Conventional wisdom often advises that 'doubts mean don't', and that anxiety should be eradicated. However, the truth is that anxiety is often misunderstood, especially when it comes to relationships.
My approach takes a different stance, drawing from the wisdom of the Jungian tradition and Eastern spirituality. I believe that relationship anxiety serves as a teacher, guiding us to uncover hidden aspects of ourselves that we are ready to integrate so we can grow. In essence, anxiety serves as an intelligent alarm system, signaling that something within us requires our attention.
Embracing relationship anxiety offers a unique opportunity to confront unconscious beliefs, stories, and conditioning that may be hindering your ability to wholeheartedly embrace love, connection, trust, and surrender.
When you embark on the journey of exploring your relationship anxiety with curiosity, here's a glimpse of what you can expect:
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A deeper connection with both yourself and your partner.
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The ability to step into commitment with confidence and unwavering clarity about the type of relationship you wish to create.
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An end to the cycle of self-doubt, enabling you to make decisions that align with the life and relationship you desire.
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The development of profound compassion, not only for yourself but also for your partner and others in your life."
Hi, I'm Mariam
Certified Master Jungian Life Coach & Relationship Anxiety Specialist informed by the Jungian tradition. I help individuals like you understand the intricate dance between insecure attachment styles and relationship anxiety. Working together we will uncover the stories, inner dynamics and defenses at the core of your interactions with your partner that lead to feelings of disconnect, anxiety and stagnation. We will work from the inside out to help find fulfilment, happiness and connection in your relationship.
My own journey is intimately tied to the realm of relationships, anxiety and Jungian Psychology. I myself struggled for years with anxiety, but it was not until it hit me full-blown nine months into my idyllic relationship that I started to get curious about its origin. In my quest for deeper understanding, I delved into the work of Carl Jung, the Swiss psychiatrist.
My approach is unique in its fusion of Jungian wisdom with a coaching framework. While our work may inherently carry therapeutic qualities, its core purpose lies in building a strong foundation for change and transformation. When we collaborate, anticipate significant insights, transformative shifts occurring within a span of 4-6 months.
Years of extensive training, qualifications, coaching and therapy have honed my ability to assist you in uncovering the wisdom and learnings concealed within your relationship anxiety. Through transformative tools like Shadow Work, emotional exploration, active imagination and dream analysis, we will help you discover joy, clarity and connection within and in your relationship.
"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate”
Carl G. Jung
“Mariam has many qualities as a coach. She was incredibly quick at understanding where I as coming from and where I wanted to go. I remember at our second session thinking: wow this person really understands me and my situation to a greater depth than a psychotherapist ever did, even after seeing him for over 15 hours of therapy." Tim W, UK
"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate”